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A Husband: The Little Things

2/4/2018

This is not an obscure Bible verse that no one has heard. It was probably quoted at most of the weddings you've attended, maybe even your own. But I want to take this verse and look closely at it, because being able to fulfill it will allow you to become a more complete Christian husband.

"Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her"
~Ephesians 5:25~

If I'm being honest, the first thing that came to my mind when I read this verse for, oh I don't know, the first one hundred times, was how it was my duty to die for my wife. I could always think of situations that might happen one day that would require me to jump in front of a bullet to save her life by sacrificing my own. Other husbands are probably not much different than me about this. They would also be willing to die for their wives.

But, why?

Simple. Because all of our families, friends, church members, co-workers, and possibly our city would know or hear about what we did. The story of the man who loved his wife so much that he laid down his life for her would become a thing of legend. That husband would instantly go to celebrity status or, at the very least, be a hero to all who heard.

“One who is faithful in a very little is also faithful in much..."
~Luke 16:10~

You see, dying for somebody else is a very big thing, and a lot of the time the big things are much easier to gather your resolve and do. The little tedious things that come and go every day are quite a difference story.

Now don't get me wrong, I still would die for my wife if I needed to or could, but I no longer believe dying is the extent of "giving myself up" for my wife.

"28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies... 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church"
~Ephesians 5:29~

As a husband, claiming to be a follower of Christ, do you love your wife enough to give up the small things for her? Ephesians 5:25 says to follow Jesus's example and give yourself up for her. Well, Jesus did much more for his followers than die for them. He gave up some very big things like Heaven and the presence of God the Father to come live among us. He gave up His omnipotence to become a little baby, for us. But, He also gave up the completeness He had in Heaven in order to experience hunger, thirst, exhaustion, and temptation. He spent his time on earth teaching people, and caring for them and their needs on a daily basis.

By His example we need to do the same for our wives. Give up ourselves for her to come closer to Jesus. That may mean give up our time, which we hold so valuable, for her to go to Bible study or a woman's night out. Maybe our money so she can attend a retreat or conference. Maybe sacrificing watching the game coming on to focus on her and prove how important she is. Although these little things won't matter to the rest of the world, doing them will mean the world to our wives...

and be witnessed by our children.

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A balancing act: being a godly husband and father

1/18/2018

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I’m a new dad. I would also consider myself a new husband. The time that’s passed is not important to my self-classification. I’m new because I still haven’t gotten the hang of either. Both have been a continuous balancing act.

Most of this stems from my years of being single and having nobody to worry about. While single I would read my Bible, a lot. I read all kinds of books from extremely smart, Christian men and I tried to pack in as much as I could. I liked to help others. Actually I loved to help others. Looking back on it from my current perspective, I very well might have had a hero complex.

Then I got married. No big deal, right? Just keep on doing what I’ve been doing and add the wife in there…

WRONG.

Now before you think too highly of me. I was not smart enough to figure out that I was doing this whole marriage thing wrong until much later. See, for me it was pretty simple, get married and she would tag along with everything I had going already. But that was not the case. Sure, I heard people all the time saying, “As the husband you are responsible for the spiritual growth of your family.” It was not as though I didn’t know this. I just didn’t know how to apply that. Beyond that, I didn’t even realize that I wasn’t being the spiritual leader of my house. I was just doing things the same way I always had.

I had it wrong. Now, I still don’t have it all worked out. So over the next few weeks, months, and maybe years I hope to dig into God’s Word, discover what He said about being a godly husband and father, and maybe find some good practices I can share with you. It's better late than never.

Step 1: Accept The Role.

Ephesians 5:23
“For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.”

Husband: Be the head of your house. We can’t be passive and give our job and responsibility away because it would easier or for any other reason. It’s ours. And, don’t read this verse to go show your wife that the Bible says, “I’m the boss.” Instead, do a self check-up. Ask yourself this question, “am I leading like Christ?”

1 Timothy 3:4-5
“He must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive, 5 for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God's church?”

Father: If we can’t manage our own house, why would we attempt to manage anybody else’s? Before we look to expand our influence into other people’s lives, we MUST expand our influence over our family, and take the calling seriously.

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For starters: I am nothing special, I love Jesus and He is my Lord. I am the husband of a godly woman. She is working with me to raise a godly child. I am a teacher. I love to read and write.

JOB 2:10 "... SHALL WE ACCEPT THE GOOD FROM GOD AND NOT THE BAD?"
ONE family TRYING TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN ANY WAY POSSIBLE.

A Husband: The Little Things

"Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her"
~Ephesians 5:25~

“One who is faithful in a very little is also faithful in much..."
~Luke 16:10~

"28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies... 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church"
~Ephesians 5:29~

A balancing act: being a godly husband and father

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JOB 2:10 "... SHALL WE ACCEPT THE GOOD FROM GOD AND NOT THE BAD?"​ONE family TRYING TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN ANY WAY POSSIBLE.

A Husband: The Little Things

"Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her"~Ephesians 5:25~

“One who is faithful in a very little is also faithful in much..."~Luke 16:10~

"28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies... 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church"~Ephesians 5:29~

A balancing act: being a godly husband and father

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JOB 2:10 "... SHALL WE ACCEPT THE GOOD FROM GOD AND NOT THE BAD?"
ONE family TRYING TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN ANY WAY POSSIBLE.

"Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her"
~Ephesians 5:25~

“One who is faithful in a very little is also faithful in much..."
~Luke 16:10~

"28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies... 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church"
~Ephesians 5:29~