I’m a new dad. I would also consider myself a new husband. The time that’s passed is not important to my self-classification. I’m new because I still haven’t gotten the hang of either. Both have been a continuous balancing act.
Most of this stems from my years of being single and having nobody to worry about. While single I would read my Bible, a lot. I read all kinds of books from extremely smart, Christian men and I tried to pack in as much as I could. I liked to help others. Actually I loved to help others. Looking back on it from my current perspective, I very well might have had a hero complex.
Then I got married. No big deal, right? Just keep on doing what I’ve been doing and add the wife in there…
Now before you think too highly of me. I was not smart enough to figure out that I was doing this whole marriage thing wrong until much later. See, for me it was pretty simple, get married and she would tag along with everything I had going already. But that was not the case. Sure, I heard people all the time saying, “As the husband you are responsible for the spiritual growth of your family.” It was not as though I didn’t know this. I just didn’t know how to apply that. Beyond that, I didn’t even realize that I wasn’t being the spiritual leader of my house. I was just doing things the same way I always had.
I had it wrong. Now, I still don’t have it all worked out. So over the next few weeks, months, and maybe years I hope to dig into God’s Word, discover what He said about being a godly husband and father, and maybe find some good practices I can share with you. It's better late than never.
Step 1: Accept The Role.
“For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.”
Husband: Be the head of your house. We can’t be passive and give our job and responsibility away because it would easier or for any other reason. It’s ours. And, don’t read this verse to go show your wife that the Bible says, “I’m the boss.” Instead, do a self check-up. Ask yourself this question, “am I leading like Christ?”
1 Timothy 3:4-5
“He must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive, 5 for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God's church?”
Father: If we can’t manage our own house, why would we attempt to manage anybody else’s? Before we look to expand our influence into other people’s lives, we MUST expand our influence over our family, and take the calling seriously.
For starters: I am nothing special, I love Jesus and He is my Lord. I am the husband of a godly woman. She is working with me to raise a godly child. I am a teacher. I love to read and write.